Transitions and change seem to be the centerpiece of my conversations these days. Friends and clients taking buy out packages, clients deciding to follow a new path out of lucrative profession and into the unknown, a colleague shuttering an office and changing direction slightly to make it through lean times, a friend deciding that the organization couldn't afford her anymore and coming to the only logical conclusion she could come to--laying herself off.
Any of this sound familiar?
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In response, I've been pointing people to two excellent sources:
- Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes by William Bridges. A nice summary of the three phases of transition (Endings, Neutral Zone, New Beginnings) is provided by a blogger/coach in India (hey, why reinvent the wheel when you have the Internet?) The main point? Change is an event. Transition is a process, one that all human beings need to go through to integrate change successfully into their lives. Photo by DerrickT
- Honorable Closure, a concept developed by Angeles Arrien. Again, a summary is provided by a third party. I've used the following questions, based on Arrien's work, as honorable closure for many of the endings in my life:
- What have I most appreciated about this experience/time?
- What have I learned from this experience/time?
- What unfinished business do I have--something I wish I had done but didn't get to?
- Are there areas where I want to practice forgiveness? Do I want to forgive myself for something or ask for forgiveness from someone?
- Are there relationships I want to bring forward with me? What do they look like?
- How do I want to mark this important ending?
What changes are you adapting to and how are you managing the transition?